| The 
                                          pickle jar as far back 
                                          as I can remember sat 
                                          on the floor beside 
                                          the dresser in my parents' 
                                          bedroom. When he got 
                                          ready for bed, Dad would 
                                          empty his pockets and 
                                          toss his coins into 
                                          the jar. As 
                                            a small boy I was always 
                                            fascinated at the sounds 
                                            the coins made as they 
                                            were dropped into the 
                                            jar. They landed with 
                                            a merry jingle when 
                                            the jar was almost empty. 
                                            Then the tones gradually 
                                            muted to a dull thud 
                                            as the jar was filled. I 
                                            used to squat on the 
                                            floor in front of the 
                                            jar and admire the copper 
                                            and silver circles that 
                                            glinted like a pirate's 
                                            treasure when the sun 
                                            poured through the bedroom 
                                            window. When the jar 
                                            was filled, Dad would 
                                            sit at the kitchen table 
                                            and roll the coins before 
                                            taking them to the bank. Taking 
                                            the coins to the bank 
                                            was always a big production. 
                                            Stacked neatly in a 
                                            small cardboard box, 
                                            the coins were placed 
                                            between Dad and me on 
                                            the seat of his old 
                                            truck. Each 
                                            and every time, as we 
                                            drove to the bank, Dad 
                                            would look at me hopefully. 
                                            "Those coins are 
                                            going to keep you out 
                                            of the textile mill, 
                                            son. You're going to 
                                            do better than me. This 
                                            old mill town's not 
                                          going to hold you back." Also, 
                                            each and every time, 
                                            as he slid the box of 
                                            rolled coins across 
                                            the counter at the bank 
                                            toward the cashier, 
                                            he would grin proudly 
                                            "These are for 
                                            my son's college fund. 
                                            He'll never work at 
                                            the mill all his life 
                                          like me." We 
                                            would always celebrate 
                                            each deposit by stopping 
                                            for an ice cream cone. 
                                            I always got chocolate. 
                                            Dad always got vanilla. 
                                            When the clerk at the 
                                            ice cream parlor handed 
                                            Dad his change, he would 
                                            show me the few coins 
                                            nestled in his palm. 
                                            "When we get home, 
                                            we'll start filling 
                                            the jar again." 
                                            He always let me drop 
                                            the first coins into 
                                            the empty jar. As they 
                                            rattled around with 
                                            a brief, happy jingle, 
                                            we grinned at each other. 
                                            "You'll get to 
                                            college on pennies, 
                                            nickels, dimes and quarters," 
                                            he said. "But you'll 
                                            get there. I'll see 
                                          to that." The 
                                            years passed, and I 
                                            finished college and 
                                            took a job in another 
                                            town. Once, while visiting 
                                            my parents, I used the 
                                            phone in their bedroom, 
                                            and noticed that the 
                                            pickle jar was gone. 
                                            It had served its purpose 
                                            and had been removed. A 
                                            lump rose in my throat 
                                            as I stared at the spot 
                                            beside the dresser where 
                                            the jar had always stood. 
                                            My dad was a man of 
                                            few words, and never 
                                            lectured me on the values 
                                            of determination, perseverance, 
                                            and faith. The 
                                            pickle jar had taught 
                                            me all these virtues 
                                            far more eloquently 
                                            than the most flowery 
                                            of words could have 
                                            done. When I married, 
                                            I told my wife Susan 
                                            about the significant 
                                            part the lowly pickle 
                                            jar had played in my 
                                            life as a boy. In my 
                                            mind, it defined, more 
                                            than anything else, 
                                            how much my dad had 
                                            loved me. No 
                                            matter how rough things 
                                            got at home, Dad continued 
                                            to doggedly drop his 
                                            coins into the jar. 
                                            Even the summer when 
                                            Dad got laid off from 
                                            the mill, and Mama had 
                                            to serve dried beans 
                                            several times a week, 
                                            not a single dime was 
                                            taken from the jar. To 
                                            the contrary, as Dad 
                                            looked across the table 
                                            at me, pouring catsup 
                                            over my beans to make 
                                            them more palatable, 
                                            he became more determined 
                                            than ever to make a 
                                            way out for me. "When 
                                            you finish college, 
                                            Son," he told me, 
                                            his eyes glistening, 
                                            "You'll never have 
                                            to eat beans again - 
                                          unless you want to." The 
                                            first Christmas after 
                                            our daughter Jessica 
                                            was born, we spent the 
                                            holiday with my parents. 
                                            After dinner, Mom and 
                                            Dad sat next to each 
                                            other on the sofa, taking 
                                            turns cuddling their 
                                            first grandchild. Jessica 
                                            began to whimper softly, 
                                            and Susan took her from 
                                            Dad's arms. "She 
                                            probably needs to be 
                                            changed," she said, 
                                            carrying the baby into 
                                            my parents' bedroom 
                                            to diaper her. When 
                                            Susan came back into 
                                            the living room, there 
                                            was a strange mist in 
                                            her eyes.She handed Jessica back 
                                            to Dad before taking 
                                            my hand and leading 
                                            me into the room. "Look," 
                                            she said softly, her 
                                            eyes directing me to 
                                            a spot on the floor 
                                            beside the dresser. 
                                            To my amazement, there, 
                                            as if it had never been 
                                            removed, stood the old 
                                            pickle jar, the bottom 
                                            already covered with 
                                            coins. I walked over 
                                            to the pickle jar, dug 
                                            down into my pocket, 
                                            and pulled out a fistful 
                                            of coins. With a gamut 
                                            of emotions choking 
                                            me, I dropped the coins 
                                            into the jar. I looked 
                                            up and saw that Dad, 
                                            carrying Jessica, had 
                                            slipped quietly into 
                                            the room. Our eyes locked, 
                                            and I knew he was feeling 
                                            the same emotions I 
                                            felt. Neither one of 
                                          us could speak.
 This 
                                            truly touched my heart. 
                                            I know it has yours 
                                            as well. Sometimes we 
                                            are so busy adding up 
                                            our troubles that we 
                                            forget to count our 
                                            blessings. Never 
                                            underestimate the power 
                                            of your actions. With 
                                            one small gesture you 
                                            can change a person's 
                                            life, for better or 
                                            for worse. God 
                                            puts us all in each 
                                            other's lives to impact 
                                            one another in some 
                                            way. Look for God in 
                                            others.The best and most beautiful 
                                            things cannot be seen 
                                            or touched - they must 
                                            be felt with the heart 
                                        ~ Helen Keller
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